Positive waiting.

If you’re doing The Rules you’ll spend lots of time waiting.

At the start of your dating journey you have to wait for them to call or get in touch.  Once you start dating you wait for them to either pick you up, or you have to wait for at them at the venue.

Once exclusive you still have to wait for them to  call, pick you up, introduce you to their friends and family, make the date plans etc. 

Finally you have to wait for them to commit. 

Despite all this waiting you’re actually the one in control.  If you’ve been waiting and they haven’t called then you move on.  You also control whether or not  to go exclusive and you decide whether they’re ‘The One.’

Couple of things on this:

If you doing The Rules, you may as well get used to the waiting.  Get busy and stay busy.  Getting busy doesn’t mean you’re impossible to get or that there’s no flex in your schedule to see him.  Remember we don’t accept last minute dates, but if he’s given you three days notice, and providing your date day doesn’t fall on your dad’s 60^th birthday or your sister’s wedding then free yourself up to see him.

Remember the ‘waiting’ for calls, texts, dates, moving to exclusivity and eventually commitment is a positive.  In between the spaces he’s gets to miss you, imagine you and think about you.  When he does finally call or arrange date plans he’ll feel it’s all been his idea.  You can help him feel this way by leaving him well alone.

While you’re ‘waiting,’ start a new hobby, learn a new language, think about a career change, start a book club or a blog, learn to cook etc. 

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