Summer dating.

Wanting dates for the summer is completely normal. 

Everyone seems to be out and about eating, drinking and generally looking tanned and happy. We look at couples sitting in the park or out in bars and yearn to be coupled up.

If you’re currently single - rather than hoping for dates here are some ways you can help yourself  get some actual live dates.

1) Please please online date.  There are some real gems online.  Don’t join one dating site but try out as many as possible.  Once you’ve created your profile and selected your pictures then it’s simply a cut and paste job.

2) Bars and restaurants are not always good hunting grounds for eligible bachelors.   If you frequent these places in the hope of meeting the one don’t be disappointed if no one asks for your number. 

3) Tell all your family and friends to send any eligible bachelors your way.  Ask everyone you know to set you up on dates. 

4) The summer is full of sporting events.  If you’re attending anything like Ascot or Wimbledon then dress and act like a total CUAO.  Again don’t be disappointed if no one asks you out.  Use this time to practise The Rules

5) Sign up for as many singles events as you can afford.  I know dating can get expensive but if meeting someone is important to you then think of the costs as a long term investment.

6) Don’t waste time on holiday flings.  Honestly they’re not worth the emotional time or energy.

7) If you’re heading aboard, remember airports are a total hot pot for men.  Don’t ask me why, they just are.  If you’re travelling in and out of airports then use this to your advantage.  If you’re doing The Rules you can’t approach any men. Look the best that you comfortably can and wait for them to come to you

8) If you're attending any weddings, again look and act like a total CUAO.  Don't focus on the fact that you're still single, instead focus on the happy couple.  They found each other and it'll happen to you too.

Doing all these things doesn’t necessarily guarantee lots of summer dates.  But it does get you closer to meeting your personal Mr Right. 

If you’re in an exclusive or committed relationship, one that’s normal and healthy then give gratitude that you’re no longer in the dating game.  It’s tough out there.  Really really tough.

If you’re single and searching, keep going and don’t settle just because all your friends are in relationships.   Unfortunately we can’t put a time line on meeting Mr Right.  It just doesn’t work that way.  We can’t speed up the process either.  All we can do is get out there again and again and again.

I know it can be hard sometimes especially if you’re of a certain age and still single.  Remember giving up is not an option and do all that you can to find your person.

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