Why hasn’t he called?

Ok dear readers, this is actually a positive. 

Let me try and explain why. 

Any die hard Rules Girls will tell you that if he’s not calling then ‘he’s just not that into you’ and he’s a ‘Next.’  We don’t worry about why he's not calling.  We simply strike his names off the list and move on.

For Rules newbie’s this takes a little getting used to.  For example imagine the following scenario. You’ve just had a great date, he said he would call but he never did.  You keep looking at your phone wondering why he hasn’t called.  You think back to the date and wonder whether you said something wrong.  You distinctively remember him saying he'd call.  So why hasn't he?

This is a positive for so many reasons:

• He’s saved you heaps and heaps of time.  The worst mistake you can make is to get impatient and call him.  This simple action will mean you’ve kept something going that’s not meant to be.  Yes he’ll probably be flattered by your call.  And he’ll probably agree to see you again.  You’ll get all excited and feel really pleased about calling him.  Be warned that you’re wasting your time.  He’s like you  and he’ll happily date you but you’re not his dream girl.

• He’s freed you up to date others.  You should thank him for not stringing you along.

• He’s one less guy to worry about.  Strike his name of the suitor list and get busy setting up more dates.

• The reason he’s not calling has NOTHING to do with you.  It’s not because you’re not pretty enough or smart enough or skinny enough.  It’s all to do with him.  Either he’s not ready to date, or you’re not his type or he's dating others.  The point is you don’t know and more importantly you don’t care. 

Also don’t expect him to call you right away.  Sometimes he'll call  the next day, sometimes he won’t. 

Your role isn’t to obsess and wonder why he isn't calling.  You role is to get busy and focus on setting up more dates. 

Finally it goes without saying but at no point do you call him for an explanation EVER.  You accept, give gratitude that he's saved you time and emotional energy and you move on.

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