A very Rules-y ending.

Lavendar Bay Australia.

This is a great story dear readers.

Last night I met a friend for dinner.  I haven’t seen her for awhile because she’s been living and working in Australia.  While out there she married her boyfriend.  Naturally I was really looking forward to hearing all the details.

Here’s the story as told by my friend:

"Well as you know, Ben and I had been dating for a couple of years.  His company asked him to take a role in the Middle East.  Due to the nature of his work, I couldn’t go with him.  He asked what I would do.  I told him I’d sort myself out.   I decided to take the opportunity and live and work in Australia for a year.  So that’s what I did.  I found work in an event company and lived in this lovely apartment in Lavender Bay. 

The farewell at the airport was really teary, we both couldn’t stop crying.  I was heading off first and as we said goodbye I asked him:

 ‘What would we do with ourselves?’

He asked what I meant and I said :

‘It would be good to make some plans together.’

I wasn’t necessarily looking for a ring. I was thinking maybe we could invest in a property or perhaps open a joint bank account together.

Anyway because of the time zones and his work we couldn’t really email or talk on the phone. The only contact we had was a weekly Skype session.  Unfortunately this was always on a Friday night.  I really liked talking to him but come on its Friday night and I’m in Australia.  I wanted to be out.  Plus the Skype connection was never any good, it was always grainy and we couldn’t really hear each other.

After three months apart, he came to visit and that’s when he proposed.  I was really shocked and wasn’t expecting a proposal at all.  Of course I was over the month and I said yes straight away.

I think he proposed because he missed me, he was worried that I might meet someone else and he was ready."

This story is Rules for so many reasons.  Firstly she didn’t act all needy and insecure when he told her about the Middle East.  She also didn’t pester him via email, phone, text etc.  When they did finally talk on Skype she ended the call first because she was having too much fun partying. 

The most important take out is that sometimes in order to move forward you have to be separated from each other. Yes there will be tears and heartache, but in the long term you'll reap the rewards.