How not to return calls, texts and emails.

If you’re new to The Rules or a beginner then not calling men, or returning texts, will at first feel really odd. 

Any die hard Rules Girls will tell you that it gets easier the more you do it.  Or not do it as in this case.

Remember you can return calls, you just can’t call men.  And you don’t have to return every single one of their missed calls either. 

For texting the best book that examples The Rules is Vanessa Taylor’s book Text, Love, Power.  To keep it simple you only need to respond to their texts and emails if they’re asking you out.  Everything else is pretty much a delete.

If you’re ever tempted to call a man.  And apart from the usual distraction tactics of calling a friend, exercising, reading etc. Here are an additional couple of things I used to do which really helped.

Firstly repeat the following to yourself again and again.

I do not call or text men

I do not call or text men.

It’s something that I just don’t do.

I am a Rules Girl and I do not call or text men

Secondly if you’ve been thinking about them and really want to call them.  I was once told to stop and imagine them in their den watching an ahem unsavoury film.  Hopefully you can catch my drift dear readers. And emmm you wouldn’t want to interrupt their ‘leisure time’ now would you.   

For texts and emails it’s even easier.  Simply delete the email or text.  Delete it straight away and tell yourself there was no text or email.   How can you respond when there’s no text or email to respond to?

The other great preventive action is to delete all their contact details from your phone/laptop/tablet etc. Delete everything.  That way you can’t call/text/email because you don’t have their details.  This way you’re forced to wait for them to get in touch first.

The more you practise the above the easier it’ll become.  And it really does become easy.  It becomes so easy that the thought of calling/texting will start to feel completely alien.

It’ll take time and you won’t be able to do it straight away but you’ll get there.

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